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The Gift of Listening

Most people listen to respond, not to understand. We listen while forming our next sentence, searching for solutions, or drawing comparisons to our own experiences. We fill pauses with advice, reassurance, or stories that turn the focus back to us. It’s not ill-intentioned—it’s human. We want to help, to connect, to offer something useful. But when we listen only to fix or reply, we unintentionally silence what the other person really needs: to feel heard.

True listening is one of the most powerful forms of love and respect. It tells the other person, “You matter. Your words are safe here.” When someone feels fully seen and understood, walls fall away. They begin to open up, reflect, and often find their own answers. Listening with presence doesn’t just strengthen relationships—it deepens empathy, reduces misunderstandings, and allows space for emotional healing, both for others and for yourself.

This month’s theme of release invites you to let go of the need to fix or control the conversation. Listening without trying to solve is a quiet act of surrender—an unspoken trust that being there is enough. When you release your urge to correct, compare, or comfort too quickly, you make space for connection and clarity to unfold naturally.

Ways to Practice the Gift of Listening 

  • Stay present. Resist multitasking—put down your phone, make eye contact, and listen with your whole body.
  • Show genuine interest. Try to become sincerely interested in what they have to share and consider their perspective. 
  • Refrain from think of your response. If you’re thinking about what to say next, you can’t completely focus on listening to them.
  • Withhold judgment. Presenting a listening ear without judgment is difficult because often we don’t realize when we’re being judgmental. A throwaway comment or even a small facial expression can make someone feel dismissed. Take note of your assumptions and biases, and choose to stay open. Nothing shuts down the speaker faster than feeling judged.
  • Practice curiosity. Every conversation is an invitation to learn something. Curiosity keeps us engaged. Not only that, but we learn faster and remember more when we genuinely want to learn. The person you’re talking to likely knows something you don’t—about an experience you’re having, a place you’ve always wanted to visit, or something they saw on the news. When you release the need to respond or fix, you open space to be curious, and curiosity naturally deepens connection.
  • Pause before you speak. Let a moment of silence linger after someone finishes talking. It shows you’re truly considering what they said. 
  • Reflect back. Gently mirror what you heard: “It sounds like you’re feeling…” This builds understanding and trust.
When you let go of fixing and judgment, you make room for presence—and in that stillness, understanding grows.


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